Allow me to vent, if only for a minute: My co-worker’s parents, who are Black, are enduring a nasty divorce and she revealed to me that her mother would prefer that she and her four sisters not date Black men, because Black men are incapable of amounting up!
I was offended when her words touched my ears! Her comment tore me apart. I am not implying that my way of thinking is the only way of thinking but why do black women fail to realize that when they give up on black men they are in so many ways giving up on themselves? Why is it that we hate each other? I dismiss the notion of the white man tore us apart, no we demolish ourselves.
My co-worker has jumped shipped and I didn’t know it!
My love, respect and admiration for Black men runs deeps but my task becomes harder each day as I look to my right, and to my left, and I feel as if I am the only one still standing … but stand I shall … bruised but not broken.
A Black man cannot be replaced! Shame on those who feel otherwise.
“Jay’s” Response to “Kay”:
Damn that’s f—– up! Why would the mother say that? Doesn’t she realize she just dissed her daughter’s daddy, and every male member in their family, including her own daddy?
The relationship didn’t work out, but that doesn’t have anything to do with race. I know plenty of happy Black couples. I don’t know what the f— is wrong with these Sistas. They act like a man of another race can’t f— up either.
That’s that slave mentality! That’s pure self-hatred if I’ve ever heard it. She’s spreading poison by saying that type of s—.
It’s different if you just fall for a guy of another race, but to say some stuff like that is f—— offensive.
My daddy is a damn good man, so is my granddaddy and uncles, who are all married Black men who have not been divorced and take care of their families. Look at Barack Obama.
I agree with “Jay’s” response.
Who would dare say the sons of Kings and Queens are worthless as mates? Do they realize they are saying people like Mandela, Harriet, Malcolm, King, Elijah, Angelou, Bethune, and Dubois were failures?
It’s ridiculous to pass judgment and assume that an entire group, especially when it is hundreds of millions of people, are all the same. Black men have existed since the dawn of mankind. Man still exists so they must have done something correct. They must have provided, protected, guided and helped sculpt us all, so how can you denounce them?
Yes, as with every group of people, there are some bad apples. But don’t go kooky and deem every single African-American man a waste of your time. There are many African-American men would make great husbands, including the President of the United States, who some single African-American women are currently seeking replicas of.
The co-worker and her mother have what’s called, a “N—– mentality” or a “the N-word mentality” (Attention: Please be aware that this word is NOT a synonym for “African-American” or “Black.”)
People who posses a “N—– mentality”, formerly “Negro (Need-to-Grow) mentality”, are a sick-minded, dysfunctional people who dislike themselves and those look like them. They suffer from a lack of productivity, self-empowerment, logical reasoning, unity, and a slew of other human traits and characteristics that are instilled in the normal person.
Often times they won’t accept help or positive persuasion. Though it continues to frustrate me, I never have allowed myself to give up on people with this sort of mentality. I just pray that they can get better soon.
SabreeThinks sincerely hopes people who have a “N—– mentality” can break the mental chains that keep them enslaved but fears they may be a forever-doomed people.